Male survivors appreciative of a new mobile ‘safe space’ service provided by Tautoko Tane Waikato

The Essence of a Safe Space

At the core of the Tane Chat Room, the Caravan is a profound commitment to creating a safe space. The importance of this space cannot be overstated. The caravans safety is not merely the absence of harm, but the presence of respect, confidentiality, and acceptance. Here, I’m assured that my conversations will be heard without judgment, that my experiences no matter how daunting or difficult is met with empathy and understanding.

I know im surrounded by genuine caring people that are willing to listen. For me who has been hurt or marginalized, the simple promise of safety is transformative, allowing me to explore my inner landscapes and confront my struggles with courage.

Cultural Relevance: The Power of Korero

In my experience Steve is always respected my culture and we together have found inspiration from the Māori concept of korero a term that encapsulates the transformative power of conversation. In Māori culture, korero is more than just talking; it is a process of sharing, connecting, and healing.

This approach not only affirms the value of my experience but also acknowledges the power of collective healing, a healing that is only possible when we come together, speak our truths, and listen with open hearts.

Accessible Support: Breaking Down Barriers

One of the most significant benefits of the Tane Chat Room is its accessibility. For me, seeking counselling or support has been daunting, hindered by barriers such as cost, stigma, location, or simply not knowing where to begin. The caravan addresses these challenges by offering an environment that is:

• Anonymous: I can choose to remain anonymous, allowing me to share more openly without fear of recognition or repercussion.
• Flexible and Mobile: As a ‘caravan’, the chat room can travel to meet us where they are, in communities either in Paeroa or Te Aroha.
• Free of Charge: Support is offered without financial burden, making it accessible to everyone regardless of their circumstances.
• Open to All: There is no prerequisite for participation; anyone needing support can join, regardless of background, identity, or experience.

By lowering these barriers, the caravan creates opportunities for people to reach out for help in ways that feel comfortable, familiar, and non-threatening.

Community and Connection

Struggling with mental health, emotional wellbeing, or life’s challenges can often leave people feeling isolated and alone. The Tane Chat Room Caravan is a powerful antidote to this isolation. It has offered a space where i can connect with someone who understand what I’m going through, this help extends far beyond the chat room itself.

Empowerment and Resilience

The act of sharing my struggles and speaking my truth is empowering. In the Tane Counselling Chat Room, Steve has always encouraged me to take ownership to speak openly about my difficulties. The process of korero allows me to reframe my challenges, viewing them not as private shame but as shared experiences that can be overcome.

Breaking the Stigma

Stigma remains one of the greatest obstacles to mental wellbeing. I was hesitant to seek help because of fear, shame and cultural taboos. The Tane Chat Room is teaching me that struggling does not mean weakness, and that asking for help is a sign of strength.

Confidentiality and Professional Guidance

Another crucial benefit is the assurance of confidentiality. The caravan is facilitated by trained people who understand the importance of privacy and discretion.

I understand I can access expert advice if needed, while also benefiting from the lived experiences of others such as Niel. This blend of professional and community support creates a holistic environment where my immediate needs can and have been met on numerous occasions.

Conclusion: A Way Forward

The Tane Chat Room offers far more than a platform for conversation it provides a sanctuary of safety, a celebration of culture, an accessible support network, and a catalyst for empowerment and change. In making space for korero, the caravan not only supports individuals in their moments of need but also strengthens the wider community, fostering resilience, compassion, and collective wellbeing.

In a world where struggles can easily go unseen, having a safe place to korero is a precious gift. The Tane Chat Room is that gift an open door, a warm welcoming smile, and someone ready to listen.

Finally I know I can Step inside, speak my absolute truth, and find my place among these men who care. Please Don’t Take This Space Away From Me, My Whanau and My Community its life saving and a protective measure for our once unsafe Homes.